Taking issues #1: An angry question mark on rape
The chain of barbaric sexual acts performed by men on women is getting longer and thicker. The continued and unstoppable crime of rape in India seems to be unaffected, no matter how much the power of feminism and righteousness is expressed. The burning anger on the streets that include both men and women protesting against the powerless and corrupt law (that includes mostly policemen) responsible for rising number of harassment, molestation, assault and rape cases of woman seems ineffective, as the pages of newspapers are filled with similar kind of news of destruction of women’s honour and dignity (majorly through sexual act) everyday. Recently India has witnessed a furore of protests (both angered and silent) and candlelight vigils by the people who are distressed by this continual brutality. Women, girls and infants of even 3 year old are getting raped and murdered. This is a situation of crisis. Contemplation of many sorts to save our women, leading to myriad questions: Will the chain continue to grow? Why India is one of the leading producers of rapists? Will sex education work? Do we foresee feminist movements here or feminism in India is constrained to carry out protest only against gender crime? Rape is a result of patriarchy or is it something else? Will men continue to see women as an object of satisfaction or grow out of this sickness? Can we expect a full stop to this atrocity in the future? Will the chain ever break?
The birth of a rapist and rape
Men have high sexual urge. But rape is not just a result of this urge. It has something to do with psyche or rather disturbed psyche. Deprivation of sex is one possible factor that leads to this act but then why countless people who are married or in some relationship that gives them the pleasure of having sex commit rape? This is a serious mental problem coupled with physical urges. However no mental craziness is witnessed in most of the rapists (only in few serial killers or rapists, a peculiar kind of craziness and psychological disorder is found). The why do men rape?
There is one possible answer for this question: The rapist’s mind is deeply instilled with the thought that he could satisfy his lust by using the women’s body, raping her and getting away with it. Many people know this fact that due to ineffectiveness of our judiciary/law enforcement system, rapists thinks that they will easily escape the crime and at times they kill the girl so that she will be not there to utter a single word and find the convict. How ruthless is it! But this happens all the time, everywhere in the world. So is it the system that gives a rapist the courage to do anything with a women’s body illegitimately? To beat, assault, rape and murder a woman is not an act that happens just because of system inefficiency but because of wrongly assuming superiority over the womankind, utilizing the dark power of patriarch ideology and lack of education. All these factors with lust for women’s body boost the will to perform the heinous act of rape.
Why India is infected with rapes and what might be the real possible solution for its annihilation?
The idea of patriarchy is deep rooted in our country. A child grows up looking the father as the head of the family. It doesn’t matter how much love the mother gives, the father remains the leader and somebody with the power. Feminism movements may have generated the electricity of equality in our minds but how far is it seeped in? Sometimes everything ends up in the minds of people who are aware and educated. But what about those who have never thought about this equality and never seen any such scene where women are doing as much as men and getting the same respect? Somebody (boy) who has seen a man leading and ruling the house (and the woman of house) all over his life will naturally develop the attitude of considering himself powerful than women and when this idea clicks the fact of doing anything with women’s body, rape is the result. Not respecting women, assuming that a man can use his physical energy to make a woman submit her body, confidence of escaping from law, threatening the woman to harm her if she reveals anything, murdering in extreme cases is a hard thing to digest but prevalent in our society, deep rooted like the thoughts that we develop by our experiences, hard rooted like the formulas that we can never forget. And sometime there’s a feeling knocking from inside that apart from protest and writing articles like this one, what else can we do? Even if we make our laws stringent and generate fear in the minds of such kinds of people (prospective rapists), will the chain break? May be the strict laws, powerful enforcement and effective monitoring (through CCTV’s) would help in decreasing the number but is that our main point of discussion? Don’t you think it should be about having respect for women? Can law help in obtaining this respect? The killer answer is that the law might miss but once a man understands the value of respecting a woman, when he learn about equality in the society and the value a woman hold in our lives then only true sun will rise. The halo will appear.
Will sex education work?
Education is always the carrier of civilization. Through education comes morality. It always helped generations from generations to elevate the situation and become better. India has done enormously to lift its education system and has reached a satisfactory position. But why not it is able to establish a course of sex education? And will it help in reducing rapes? Yes it will of course help as it deals not only with anatomy and reproduction but also with emotional relations between a man and a woman, reproductive rights and responsibilities and other aspects of sexual behavior. It is shocking that the subject is still unacceptable in our society. It is neither taught in home nor in the schools and the only way to learn it is always pornography. However pornography only teaches half of it and may master you to till the physical level but there is no emotional understanding or learning. Only through proper sex education we can overcome this lacking. There is nothing like shame in teaching or learning it publicly. Why don’t we accept the fact that it’s high time and still we have not opened ourselves to accept sex education?
The role of women
The violence and gender crime against women had caused volcanic eruption in the hearts. Women have protested in all possible forms. The formation of feminist groups and the conduct of marches and protests are witnessed. How much it had affected the surface of trouble? Still remains a question. It’s always hard for an intellectual discussion (which is predominant as a part of feminism) on any struggling situation to pierce the sheet and touch the grassroots from where nuisance-makers evolve. So what can be the most effective contribution women can provide in the movement against the gender crime?
One of the best things women can do is to teach their children about the value a woman hold in the society and why they should be treated equally to its counterpart and respectfully. Possibly those boys who have gained these kind of valuable moral teaching early in their life from their mothers might never misbehave with any woman.
They can also uplift the way society portrays them. The knot must be untied that a woman in short clothes is bad and inviting. Transformation when it comes to thinking or changing an already molded ideology is a tough nut to crack but we can always try our best if the transformation is for betterment.
Learning defensive art (which is good) or arming with weapons like deodorants might be suggested from several organizations (specifically governmental) but that’s not what we want. We want independence from fear. At some point protection is necessary till a certain level but that will be like a mosquito coil kind of stuff. We need DDT for this. We need complete eradication.
It is understandable that it’s not an overnight magic but we can at least expect a downfall in numerical values. We can always hope of the day when there would be no rape. Till then we wish that the politico-blabbermouth will stop commenting about the girl’s clothing, western ideologies and chowmein. Bullshit to claim them responsible for rape. Only men and their sick brains must be blamed for this. Insolent, shameless, men.